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Dear Dr. Fact and Dr. Faux,
I recently learned that my best friend whom I’ve known for years doesn’t consider me their best friend. I feel really hurt by this. What should I do?
Sincerely,
Friend in Crisis

Dear Friend,
The first thing to note is that your situation is not uncommon and you are not alone. It can be hurtful when you feel that someone doesn’t value you as much as you value them. However, this does not mean that you are any less worthy of love. Just know that this single relationship does not define you, and friendships often come and go. So don’t let this break your spirit; keep being you! If you want to maintain this friendship, the best thing you can do is talk to the other person and let them know how you are feeling. Expressing your feelings and getting them off your chest will at least give you relief. If this person worth keeping around, they will be glad to talk it out with you. Additionally, if this person makes you feel happy, then this system of perceived hierarchy shouldn’t matter. You should continue to spend time with them if they make you feel good. In the grand scheme of things, titles such as “friend” or “best friend” don’t make much of a difference. So be mindful of who you are around when you feel your best, and keep those people close to you.

In wisdom and good will,
Dr. Fact

Dear Crisis,
I firmly believe that the best option for you is to drop them and block them on all social media. Don’t try to talk to the friend about how you feel. That would only lead to an annoying, prolonged, dying friendship. It’s best to simply ghost them, forget they exist, and move on to another friend. Friendships should always be extremely hierarchical and all human relationships should have written terms and conditions of the symbiotic relationship, plus verification by a notary. Friendships should immediately be left behind if small differences arise.

Good luck and good riddance,
Dr. Faux